Abnormal Personality Types, Parenting and Other Issues
by Narayan Singh Kalsa aka Michael J. Lincoln
Author of Messages from the Body, Addictions and Cravings, Allergies and
Aversions and many more
Abnormal Personality Types from Child Abuse
- The Apple Tree Abnormal Personality
They are the "perennial runner-up", the one voted most likely to
succeed — and then doesn't. Meanwhile, they haunt the dating services
and they are a member in good standing of the "lonely hearts club".
They seem to have some sort of compulsion to never succeed at any
thing. They forever fail to live up to their potential — one of the
Gary Harts and Jerry Browns of the world. They are person who is
"living under their Apple Tree" . . .
- The Baby Bird Abnormal Personality
Have you ever seen a mother bird feeding her young? There they are,
mouths wide open, pushing, shoving and shrillingly demanding whatever
morsel is in mom's mouth at the moment, with not the slightest regard
for anyone or anything else. This is the perfect picture of the 'baby
bird' in action.
- The Black Sheep Abnormal Personality
Remember the story of "Jack and the Beanstalk?" Or, more to the point,
remember the giant? The giant was a "black sheep". And "FEE, FI, FO,
FUM!" is the "mantra" of the "black sheep". This is the "perpetual
bully" who becomes a "professional asshole". They are a "careening
cannon" who "blows away" whoever and whatever is in their path. They
never stop assaulting the environment, and they coerce, clobber and
control their way to whatever they want, like a 500-pound gorilla.
- The Center Stage Abnormal Personality
Remember 'Gerald McBoing-Boing'? He was the cartoon kid who riveted
everyone's total attention with his ability to make virtually any sound
out of his mouth, including things like car wrecks, train whistles and
tap dancing. Well, the 'center stage' has the same kind of effect on
people. They are absolute past masters of gaining and maintaining
attention ad infinitum by being incredibly colorful, exciting,
entertaining and delightful - or by being loud, invasive, entraining
- The Church Mouse Abnormal Personality
There was once a sweet young thing who projected the image of the
innocent and struggling, quiet, brilliant and pleasant person. However,
in reality, she was an "eye of a storm" everywhere she went. Things
continuously happened around her that were often nightmarishly
terrible. Yet she always seemed to be warm, insightful and integritous,
with absolutely no connection to what was happening around her.
- The Claim to Fame Abnormal Personality
Remember the old 'Bobo the Clown' inflatable punching bag with the big
red nose that squeaked when you hit it, and that had something heavy in
the bottom so it always came back up for more? Now imagine that clown
with a slow leak, so that there has to be a continuous re-inflation
process going on to keep it up. If you do, you have some idea of how
the 'Claim to Fame' (CF) operates. They are the 'perennial adolescent'
who are 'one note' status-freaks whose chant is, 'Wait till they hear
about THIS! always trying to prove their right exist by making a big
- The Desperado Abnormal Personality
Did you know that there is a new phenomenon in Japan called 'karoshi'?
It is a case of working yourself to death - literally, as they are
found dead at their desk the office in morning. It is becoming quite
common over there. And reflects a pattern that is becoming pandemic our
times - workaholic/servaholic who can't be intimate or allow love into
- The Dopey Abnormal Personality
Do you remember 'Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs', the cartoon? And the
sweet, simple and stupid-seeming dwarf? His name was 'Dopey'. He was
chosen as the metaphor/title for this script because it fits so well.
For those who have been programmed in this manner by whatever means are
very much like the lovable little dwarf - innocent, down-to-earth and
easily overwhelmed, so that they need a 'prosthetic environment' to
function, ranging from individualized instruction to 'crib-sheets' to
special routines to specialized equipment to support system intimates
to full-fledged institutionalization.
- The Egghead Abnormal Personality
Meet the "walking cerebrum", the brain on stilts. They are the epitome
of logic, rationality, and left hemisphere analysis. To them everything
has its place and everything is in its correct place -- at least in
their conception of the world. They have the ANSWER, whether it takes
the form of an ideology, a theory, or a method of analysis and inquiry.
And God help anyone who either seeks to introduce anything different or
tries to prove them wrong!!!
- The Family Dog Abnormal Personality
Remember the bizarre butler in 'The Rocky Horror Picture Show?'. He was
hunchbacked and extremely weird - clearly he would never have been able
to make it in the world, though he had a central role in his master's
castle. He was a perfect example of a 'family dog', the crushed
incompetent who is totally trained to be the family's support system -
or to be up in the garret or in the basement, like they used to do in
- The Family Emblem Abnormal Personality
What do Jimmy Carter and Carol Burnett have in common? Answer: they are
both "family emblems". This is the "superstar" pattern, where the
individual consistently puts out at much more than the average bear's
capacity. They are spectacularly successful in most areas of life, and
they rise to the top of whatever endeavor field they engage. But
paradoxically, they come from a highly dysfunctional family in which
virtually everyone else in the family spends their life groveling
around in the shit of the family system and its effects on their lives.
You wonder how in the world this individual could have come from that
- The Fog Bound Abnormal Personality
Remember that guy in the trench coat who always looked like he was lost
in space somehow, but who always was in exquisite control of
everything? "Columbo", his name was, I believe. He had a way of looking
somehow befuddled all the time, and yet he had a video camera's eye and
memory for virtually every detail of everything he encountered. Trivial
or important, it didn't matter — he knew it all equally well.
- The Goodie-Getter Abnormal Personality
Remember John Belucci? It was found by autopsy that he was already dead
in five major organs - he was a walking corpse who would have died of
'natural causes' within the next two weeks anyway. He had managed to
dissipate himself to death by the age of 33. He was a fine example of a
- The Goodie-Two-Shoes Abnormal Personality
Meet 'Barbie and Ken' - 'Daddy's little girl' and 'Mommy's little man'.
These are the 'goodie-two-shoes' (goodie-two-shoes) parent-pleasing
puppet whose heart belongs to Daddy or Mommy. They are the sexually
saturated 'chosen one' who is kept exclusively tied to the engulfing
parent via the 'phantom Papa' or the 'ghostly Mama' in their head for
the rest of their life. They are a highly specialized reward machine
for the 'choosing' parent. They literally can't live an independent
life because the 'Lilliput-tie-downs' were so effective. They are like
the odd half of a pair of scissors for which the other half will never
come through or show up. They end up living a 'movie' instead of a
- The Hobby Horse Abnormal Personality
Meet "Admiral Perry", who is the one who said in the heat of battle,
"Damn the torpedoes! FULL SPEED AHEAD!". These are the "cause-aholics"
of the world, the ones who have THE ANSWER, and who intend to see to it
that everyone conforms to the solution requirements. They are true
believers who put all their eggs in one basket, and after becoming
their own worst taskmaster, they try to ram their trip down everyone
else's throat. Now this can range from the damned foolish to the damned
effective, like Joan Baez and Jane Fonda, Robert Redford and Dustin
Hoffman. But the pattern is the same — trying to save the world with
their "magic" formula.
- The Injustice Hound Abnormal Personality
Don Quixote delusionally misperceiving a windmill as a villainous
adversary and charging it, only to get picked up by his petard, taken
to the top of the windmill's swing, and then dropped on his head. If
you've got that image, you've got the injustice house in action.
- The Jewelled American Princess Abnormal
You see that pile of mattresses over there? Guess who was there! That's
right, the 'Princess and the Pea'. She was a classic example of the
'Jeweled American Prince(ss)'. This is an individual who feels
'special' and who expects 'royal' treatment. They are narcissistically
haughty, perfectionistically picky, and imperiously exploitative.
- The Keystone Kid Abnormal Personality
Remember the figure of "Atlas" holding up the world? When "Atlas
shrugs", the whole world comes tumbling down. This is the situation the
"keystone kid" experiences. They feel totally responsible for the care
and maintenance of whoever and whatever they are in contact with, and
their experience is that if they don't cover all the bases, all hell
will break loose and it's all their fault. Of course, the whole
situation is their sole responsibility, and there is no such thing as a
little help from their friends.
- The Lone Marauder Abnormal Personality
Meet Bonnie and Clyde, the "lone marauders". These are the "criminal
personalities" of the world. They juggernaught their way through life
with the basic orientation of, "I gotta right — and you'd better back
off!". They operate like "travelling tornadoes", tearing up the
environment everywhere they go, and leaving a trail of tragedy behind
them. They are amoral total takers whose motto is, "If I can get away
with it, why not?". "Besides, those assholes got it coming to them
after all they did to me and mine!". They operate like a lawless
version of the "Tasmanian devil" cartoon character, buzz-saw-eating
their way through everything they encounter.
- The Model Child Abnormal Personality
When you think of the traditional oriental person, particularly the
female, you have a good idea of who the "model child" is. They are
extremely inhibited, retiring, self-effacing and eager to please, but
you might as well piss in the wind rather than to try to get them to
share themselves or to express a preference. They are the "quiet ones",
the ones who silently labor their way to accomplishments in the
- The Mom Addict Abnormal Personality
Picture, if you will, the scene of a Nazi concentration camp where a
child is yanked from the arms of his/her mother and is carried off
screaming while the even more distraught mother is held back by guards.
This is the intensity of passion and reaction to separation that exists
in the 'mom-addict'.
- The Peck's Bad Boy/Girl Abnormal Personality
Have ever known someone who somehow always ended up on the shitty end
of the stick, no matter what? If so, you have known a 'Peck's Bad
Boy/Girl' ('PBB/G'). They live a misery-seeking life-style of slowly
self-destructive dissipation and pseudo-joy ride self-distraction on
the way down the shit-chute to oblivion. They spin their wheels with
self-deluding and living-in-the-instant activities, events, and
pseudo-emotions to avoid like the plague any responsibility or reality.
They are totally denial-dominated and unreal in all they do. It is also
the basis of the addictive and alcoholic systems.
- The Perennial Child Abnormal Personality
We are being inundated with a group of charming, conning, conniving
cop-out artists who are dedicated to the notion that they won't grow
up. These are the 'Perennial Children', the 'Peter Pans' and 'Peter
Panellas' of the world. It is a 'transition culture' phenomenon leading
us from the authoritarian paranoid patriarchy into the
community-committed caring process. We had to go through the 'bend over
backwards' opposite of the 'Old World' before we could move on to the
'New World'. And these childish 'have your cake and eat it too' - 'Go
for it!' types were the out-route.
- The Queen of Hearts Abnormal Personality
They are instantly noticeable, these gorgeous creatures from hell. They
are a super-bod or super-stud who is surrounded by admiring and
endangered members of the other gender and of their gender who are
vulnerable to their wiles. They are a definite 'Look but don't touch!'
type of situation, as they are masterful 'Buzz off, Buster!' and 'Who
let you in?' seducer-reducers to tears.
- The Rebellious Child Abnormal Personality
DON'T FENCE ME IN!!!' That response indicates an intense 'rebellious
child' having a major freak-out in reaction to what they experience as
an attempt to tie them down like Gulliver in Lilliput. They in no way
want to be pinned down on anything, and they react instantly to
anything that even hints at control efforts or restrictions of their
- The Red Riding Hood Abnormal Personality
At the risk of mixing metaphors, I'd like you to remember 'Sleeping
Beauty'. She was in a state of total vulnerability and helplessness
while in a completely passive state waiting for 'Prince Charming' to
come and rescue her from her deep sleep so she could finally commence
her life. She was and felt completely unable to do anything to bring
about her own rescue or to make any kind of impact on the environment,
and it was her very state of passive helplessness that was expected to
bring about her rescue.
- The Smiling Jackie Abnormal Personality
Do you see that laughing man over there, seeming to be having the time
of his life? Do you notice after a bit that something begins to grate
about it? It's rather like the recorded laughter for the
- The Urban Hermit Abnormal Personality
Give me space and get out of my face!'. That's the motto of a very
common creature nowadays - 'Urban Hermit'. They don't want to be
bothered or with other people needs and self-manifestations. them, it
feels like are being invaded. though some them work hard at coming
across as bristling porcupine, reality is in effect 'rejecting first
any more pain from other people...
- The Ugly Duckling Abnormal Personality
You can always spot them — they're the one at the gathering around whom
there is a large space. They are a vaguely discomforting or perhaps
even a deeply disturbing experience for most people to be around. But
the problem isn't "B.O.", it's the "germ that caught penicillin"
reaction. For they are people who have a handle on the Truth to a
degree that is quite alarming to others. They are the "ahead of their
times" guys and gals. These are the "ugly ducklings".
- The Will o' the Wisp Personality
Do you see that absolutely gorgeous creature over there with half the
room surrounding them in awe-struck admiration? That is the local
"Will-O'-the-Wisp" (WOW) charming the pants off of everyone while
delivering almost nothing. They are the original "dance-away lover",
the "Lucy with the football". They are expert "hope-hookers" who
specialize in breaking hearts and milking situations, the original
"Heartbreak Hotel". They are masterful at generating a "magnificent
obsession" towards themselves and they are incredible at the
elicitation of longing with their "haunting capabilities". The whole
thing is built on a delightful childlike innocence, ingenuousness and
- The Yuk-Artist Abnormal Personality
Meet 'Quasimoto' - the 'Hunchback of Notre Dame', the 'yuk-artist' who
is a past master at eliciting an 'E-e-e-i-uck!!!' reaction wherever
they go. They are the original 'funny looking kid' and 'weirdo' who has
an absolute knack for revolting everyone they encounter. And to make
matters worse, they seem to be programmed to do the 'Humpty Dumpty'
thing of deflecting all efforts by all the King's horses and all the
King's men to put them back together again.
- What in the World is Happening in
This little book addresses the whole issue of relationships at present.
At this point in history, relationships have become near impossible to
effectively manifest. People are having a very difficult time with all
forms of intimate relationship - spousal, parenting, friendship,
mentoring, close collegial, and all other forms of vulnerable,
invested, committed and significant interpersonal involvements.
- Family Types Introduction
This chapter examines the family systems that do the scripting of
individuals. (Scripting means the development of an set of rules,
programs, reactions, mostly unconscious, that manifest themselves as
abnormal personalities.) The purpose of this introduction is to give an
overview of the characteristics of these systems, to allow for a better
comprehension of how scripting works in people's lives. The primary
focus here will be on the major family system types.
- All in the Family Introduction
Why is it that I always feel so responsible for everything? Isn't it
strange how things always seem to go wrong where Martha's involved?
It's weird how Al always seems to get his way and get away with it,
- All in the Family Epilogue
There are several points to be made in closing. For one thing, it
should be remembered that all of the personality patterns and family
systems can vary in severity from the very mild to the severely
destructive. It is also important to note that both the family system
types and the personality patterns or 'scripts' (family roles, 'bailing
stations') can and do combine to produce mixtures in given individuals.
Indeed, as was indicated earlier, this is by far and away the norm.
- Parent Their Soul
It is perhaps one of the most insane and inane facts of our life that
in the'modern world', kids come last in our priorities. That effect
means we have taken the anti-cosmic and anti-biologic stance tomorrow
doesn't matter. It is essentially a suicidal insanity of paranoid
patriarchy now dying for reasons just such as this.
- Ancient Wisdom About Women; What Men Should
The spiral represents woman. The arrow represents man. The spiral
represents spinning around. The arrow represents focus and stability. A
man provides stability to a woman. Sometimes a woman cannot help
herself from losing control of her emotions. A man needs to be
understanding and not react to what is happening on the surface. Here
are some basic rules for a man to memorize and follow:
- Ancient Wisdom About Women; What Men Should
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