There are several points to be made in closing. For one thing, it should be remembered that all of the personality patterns and family systems can vary in severity from the very mild to the severely destructive. It is also important to note that both the family system types and the personality patterns or "scripts" (family roles, "bailing stations") can and do combine to produce mixtures in given individuals. Indeed, as was indicated earlier, this is by far and away the norm.
It is also true that the more family system failures and personality pattern resultants an individual has, the more handicapped they are. On the other hand, when they have succeeded in breaking out of the "behavioral prisons", they bring with them all the special learnings they experienced while "in script", along with the learning from the "break-out" process, both of which they add to their now full human and soul potentials available to them. This makes for quite an impressive individual, oftentimes.
In fact, there is a kind of "the bigger they are, the harder they fall -- and the higher they fly"-- "phoenix" pattern that accompanies this process. It is in this context that the author modestly admits that when he was 20 years old, he was operating under19 of these "life scripts" (and four of the developmental "flatlines" as well), and he was one helluva whacked up weirdo! But look at him now! He still a helluva weirdo, but boy what he can do . . .
A second major point to be made is that how all of this plays out is a function of a number of other crucial variables in the individual's life such as their soul characteristics, biologic givens, the individual's subculture, and the epoch in which they live. These family types and the roles that they result in take on quite different flavors and impacts under different circumstances and in the face of different inherent characteristics of the individual.
For instance, it makes a great deal of difference if the individual is from a Native American, ghetto African-American, Mormon, Chicano, Jewish, military-nomadic, "hard-hat", "cowboy", deep southern rural, "Appalachian transplant", or other subcultural group. It also makes a difference if the family operates in the resource-grubbing and getting by suspiciousness pattern of a poverty situation, or if the hugely impactful different birth-order role-determined experiences that occur in a very large family are operative.
Then there are the effects of the single parent family and its special problems such as the "glamour boy", "goodie-getting", "trouble-making", "unreliable" or "harassing" other parent, and the strong tendency to turn the child into a substitute spouse and an associate or reversed role parent, not to mention the burnout problem and the question of how to handle lovers. And how about the gay or lesbian family or the mixed ethnicity family?
Then there is the stepfamily, with all of its special problems, like the rejection of the stepfather by the daughter. The stepmother might find herself in the role of the "other mother", the primary mother, or the friend. Then there are all the special circumstances that arise with other situations such as older parenthood, adoptive parenthood and foster-parenthood.
Then there is the whole issue of soul qualities interacting with all this. For instance, there is the situation of the older soul child coming into a younger soul environment which is totally unprepared to deal with the likes of them. Or the "cross-over" soul, where a primarily female entity is occupying a male body or an intensely masculine entity is living inside a female body. Or how about the "king-shaman-sorcerer" soul type combination, which makes for an incredibly demanding, powerful and primordially disconcerting child to rear.
Finally, with regard to the dilemma of the isolated nuclear family, it would seem that any and all efforts directed at developing resource-sharing and resource-networks for individual families are for the better. The basic problem is a sheer lack of resources in the face of overwhelming demands. There are clear trends in this direction developing, and there are many experiments and alternatives to the isolated nuclear family model evolving at present. We need to find some workable way to return to the "commons" type of life we had for all but the last 10,000 years of our evolutionary history. The isolated nuclear family is a biologic atrocity that MUST be effectively corrected NOW, not in the sense of the family unit itself, but rather in the totally untenable and intolerable circumstances under which it has to function at present.
There is a fundamental issue involved here, however. And that is that such efforts are not going to go very far if the "paranoid patriarchy" and its attendant culture and priorities is going to continue much longer. Indeed, it is likely that WE won't continue if it does. We are in the midst of the "Armageddon" process, which marks the end of selfishness as the primary process of living, as well as of the patriarchy and the industrial order. Things are remarkably in flux and evolution right now, and it is literally a make it or break it situation for the human race. Either we go to the heart-centered and largely feminine values and way of living or we will cease living.
However, again, all appearances to the contrary notwithstanding and despite all the short term "bad news", the future looks good in the long run. We have been around learning for about six and a half million years, and we are about to embark on the true destiny of the human race if we can get past this current crisis. The patterns described in this book are part of the massive, pervasive, ubiquitous and unavoidable pressure to come up with a "better idea". And we are very likely to do so. We are learning and responding to the demands arising from the situation, and it would appear that in the not-too-distant future, this "catalogue of catastrophe" will be obsolete, like an anatomy of the Victorian culture.
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