Meet Bonnie and Clyde, the "lone marauders". These are the "criminal personalities" of the world. They juggernaught their way through life with the basic orientation of, "I gotta right — and you'd better back off!". They operate like "travelling tornadoes", tearing up the environment everywhere they go, and leaving a trail of tragedy behind them. They are amoral total takers whose motto is, "If I can get away with it, why not?". "Besides, those assholes got it coming to them after all they did to me and mine!". They operate like a lawless version of the "Tasmanian devil" cartoon character, buzz-saw-eating their way through everything they encounter.
They are also perennial scammer-schemers whose big dream is to "hit it big" and then to turn around and hobnob with the power elite and give them the finger any way they can. However, the reality is that they have been "penitentiary-programmed", in the sense that they have been "automatic pilot" set up to "shoot themselves in the foot" over and over until they finally "blow their head off" one way or another.
HOW DID THEY GET THIS WAY?
The basic problem for the "lone marauder" is that their early emotional development was severely damaged by conditions of functional severe abandonment and hostility from the parents. They were treated as if they were the "intimate enemy" in a viscous-malicious world, which was the parents' orientation towards life. As a result of this experience, the individual goes totally solo in their functioning, and they regard the environment as a "viscously withholding tit". They were so badly assumed about and around that they bought the world picture of their parents, and they act accordingly.
The parents typically control a frightened family by implied and periodically acted out violence, and by extremely rejecting behaviors based on a deeply distrusting paranoid orientation. Control and convenience are almost the sole criteria by which all interactions are evaluated. Due to their intense dislike and distrust of others, they are extremely guarded against letting them know where they are coming from. They don't want their children in particular to know what they are thinking. There is a deliberate attempt to be opaque to them, with the result that the children don't understand their parents' behavior at all.
Eye contact and physical touch are systematically avoided, the children's experiences are consistently invalidated, and physical punishment is used liberally. To the parents, physical objects and coercive control are the only trustworthies in the world, and their approach to the environment emphasizes getting the upper hand, and seizing control of security, status and power symbols by hook or by crook. The resulting lifestyle is like that of a "sneaky fox" trying to outwit every system and situation.
Often the "lone marauder's" experience from conception onward is devastatingly chaotic, neglectful and abusive. Not infrequently, things get so bad that there is a separation of at least a month's duration during the child's first year of life, due to the "spare the rod and spoil the child" and the "Let the kid cry it out!" neglectful and abusive parenting pattern. In addition to these profoundly and permanently damaging first year separations, there is also a high incidence of abandonment followed by numerous farming outs, foster placements and institutional settings. Because the parents are preoccupied with their own survival struggle, they seek to substitute material goods for affection and commitment, withholding any form of emotional nurturing or stroking and leaving the individual emotionally abandoned.
The parents are often distrusting, hostile, coercively controlling, antisocial and periodically violent. Their attitude is, "It's a dog-eat-dog world, and I'll be damned if this kid is going to be top dog in this family!". The powerful message communicated to the child is that the parent would be much better off if the child had never been born. There is a high rate of suspicion, punitive control, and shaming from the "care-takers", out of the assumption that you have to "carry a big stick" in order to "keep them in line". Life becomes a kind of hidden warfare or counterespionage situation in which the child learns to operate like a secret agent.
There is a great deal of family conflict, and there is an enormous amount of hostility and aggression in the household. There is much inconsistency of discipline and extremes of restrictiveness and permissiveness abound. The mother often has an intense hatred of males arising from her own similar history. There may be family delinquency, with a criminal father, a cold mother and multiple criminal siblings. And to cap the whole thing off, the family is often a separate and rejecting/rejected insulated unit, cut off from the community.
There are variations on and alternatives to this pattern, of course. For one, there is the middle class family who keep a "Leave it to Beaver" front up, while at the subtle, subterranean and subconscious level, the above dynamics are being played out, with the "lone marauder" as the hidden recipient of all their ragefulness, shadow-domination and rejection. Then to everyone's horrified surprise, the individual turns out to be a "lone marauder".
Then there is the insane, invasive, impossible mother's assaults that may even involve black witch and sorceress activities, all in the context of a totally indifferent and exploitative/abusive environment. The only way to survive this system was for them to develop a "wall of delusion" implacable, impenetrable and impervious defense system as they juggarnaught their way along.
Then there is the utterly unconcerned mother who has a virulently viscous vengeance vendetta attitude and lifestyle. She is so consumed with rage that she considers her children to be her "action arms" and "apprentices". She systematically creates simultaneously super-survivalist and vengeance vendetta get-back artist three-year-old chaotic children who then careen through the world to their early deaths.
Finally, there is the combination of a rigid, rejecting, restrictive and rageful father with a lax, interference-running, over-indulgent and sexualizing mother. The father is also often violent and authoritarian, and not infrequently, he is either absent a lot or he leaves the picture early. The mother reacts to the child as being victimized as a projection of her own feeling of helplessness and powerlessness. She is also infantile, totally egocentric, symbiotic, hedonistic and sexploitative in her engulfing, pedestalizing and over-permissive manner. However, she is also an unconsciously seethingly rageful and vengeful "sneaky sadist" who is in effect "soul-searing" and castrating her son while at the same time slyly, subtly, subconsciously and subteraneanly training him to be her "apprentice" and "well-guided missile" "action arm" for her virulent revenge-rage. This is a deadly combination, because it generates the "serial murderer".
When the individual in this family context and process is a female, a slightly different dynamic results. In this situation, the mother's reaction to the child starts during the symbiotic period (0 to 9 months), during which she forms an extremely intense and possessive attachment to her. The attachment is so overwhelmingly strong that it generates "silicon implants" of her "fatal attraction" figure, her rageful attitude towards men, and her profound bond — with the implication that it must never be severed into the inner core of the child because of its earliness and the lack of boundaries at that time.
When the child reaches the Elektra period, the mother intensely reacts to the daughter's ill-fated and inevitable attempts to connect with and elicit commitment from the father. She considers it a major betrayal while at the same time she identifies even more with the child's plight that if it is her son. This strongly activates the "silicon implants" in the individual, and it greatly magnifies them. The child then becomes primed to do the mother's bidding out of the "implants", the intensely engulfing, pedestalizing and "specializing", and the "apprenticing" and "action arm" process. The daughter then becomes ragefully lesbian or bisexual (as she tries to resolve the mess with her father) — and she becomes a multiple murderer, usually of men (though sometimes her husband and/or children — his progeny), rarely of women (mothers) because like her male counterpart, she pedestalizes the mother, with the additional impact of the "implanted" bonding and injunction never to sever the "tie that grinds".
WHERE ARE THEY COMING FROM?
As they compare themselves to other people, they ask, "What's wrong with me? Everyone else seems to have been born in the lap of luxury while I have to struggle just to survive!". Instead of developing a functional identity, the "lone marauder" devolves into a decision to "get even" with an unjust society, and into a daily debate over whether life is worth living at all.
They become an emotionally starved survival-artist with a cynical-sardonic-sarcastic social interface. They are highly distrusting of systems, and they are massively negatively assumptive, expecting the worst always, and they are disenchanted, disengaged and disgruntled. They feel abused and misunderstood, and they engage in a lot of arbitrary distinctions and self-misleading self-justifications. They go into a solo trip, assuming that no one out there gives a damn and that it's entirely up to them as to what happens to them. They have resolved the stress from their experiential history by closing themselves off from all close relationships, and by detaching from people being in any way relevant or satisfying to them.
Feeling that they were born into a rotten situation and that through no fault of their own they have been forced to deal with every imaginable bad break in life, the "get even" motivation becomes paramount, right along side a "running scared" sense of panic. People become objects to be manipulated for personal gain, reflecting the predatory relationships they have always experienced. They had to detach and seal over early in life, and they have no capacity to connect or empathize. There is a homicidal/suicidal rage underlying their pseudo-indifferent defensive system.
Underneath, they are an overwhelmed very young child who can't cope and who is striking out in total frustration. They have no idea how to have power, capability and quality of life. They are sexually totally incompetent eunuchs who understand neither gender at all. They are developmentally arrested cognitively and emotionally in late infancy, and they are primitively narcissistic and full of massive rage, terror and depression. Yet they are so concrete that they can't comprehend feelings at all, and their emotions operate independently like a demonic possession process. They feel utterly defeated before they even start life, and so they take a "Pirates of Penzance", "Sink the Bismark!" approach.
Their aggression and violence is their method of survival to keep their felt powerlessness at bay and to keep the (by their definition) all-powerful others from wiping them out. They feel isolated, alone and unappreciated, and non-aggression feels suicidally dangerous to them. They feel totally disenfranchised and that they have to fight for even basic needs. They develop "criminal pride" and antisocial rage, along with an obsessional power orientation due to their cope-ability-terror and in a counter-phobic reaction. They are cognitively extremely simplistic and concrete-minded, having no capability to acquire the kind of skills and knowledge necessary for contributory living. And of course, they are ultimately self-hating and self-destructive due to their felt victimization and deservingness of it, at the subconscious level.
Their view of life becomes one of "getting over" in an "eat, drink and be pseudo-merry" lifestyle. They try desperately to drain off the energy generated by their chronic fear by "running it off at the muscle". They run a massively macho power-and-status trip as a kind of frenetic self-reassurance that they've "got it all under control". They become uncompromising, manipulative, responsibility-avoidant, rule-breaking, pseudo-seductive, information-hole using, extortionistic and self-deluding. They are grimly determined to keep things as they always have been because that is all they have ever known.
Their whole lifestyle is based on the assumption that their basic survival needs are being capriciously withheld, and that they are therefore justified in whatever it takes to wrench from a hostile environment what is their "God-given" heritage. They retreat into a more or less self-contained system of survival in which they justify everything in terms of their "right to self-protection" or in terms of their exaggerated pride (which is the exact opposite of their underlying profound self-hatred and self-disgust). They are operating out of an intense sense of utter isolation and vulnerability-anxiety that goes all the way to a fear of imminent annihilation at all times.
They automatically assume that they have to go for power and control at all costs, that they have to hide their motives, behaviors and plans to protect their very life, that other people are out to get them, that they have to constantly counteract and deflect presumed negative intentions, plans and events, and that they are being continuously discriminated against and denied what is justly theirs.
They operate out of extreme fearfulness, but they only experience profound rage towards other people. They feel that the world is horrendously hostile and dangerous, and they feel totally besieged and at risk at all times. Self-protection becomes paramount to them as a result. They feel that people are immoral, untrustworthy, in need of constant vigilance, deserving of dire punishment, and out to get what is rightfully theirs by nefarious means. They are basically on a self-righteous revenge-on-the-world trip.
Then there is the sexual psychopath and the serial murderer, whose formative history was discussed above. These individuals are in effect super-suppressed "sneaky sadists" who have superstar motivations arising from their sexualized "specialness" treatment by their mother as she colluded with him against the violent and rejecting father. They are also a super-sexually saturated system — like a loaded gun. They desperately want to "prove" themselves to the apparently most rejecting parent, the father. They are father-fixated, patriarchically vengeful, and a self-destructive power-freak who is homicidally rageful towards males in authority.
They do a "splitting" thing where the father is all bad and the mother is all good, and they pedestalize the mother. They compare all other women to their mother — and find them totally unworthy, immoral and disgusting. Women thus become the recipient of all their suppressed homicidal rage at the mother for her castrating and "apprenticing" them. They become a "raging rapist" who is also a sexual sadist, a woman-degrader and a multiple murderer and mutilator.
All of the same dynamics apply in the case of the female multiple murderer, with the exception that they aren't trying so much to "prove" themselves to their father with their power. They are more trying to win his love and to "prove" themselves as "good daughters" to the mother by playing out her scripting exactly as ordered. And she is a man-hater, a man-killer and a narcissistically rageful lesbian/bisexual. And, like their male counterparts, they do it all for Mom . . .
HOW DO THEY FUNCTION?
The "lone marauder's" behavior pattern is a more or less systematic assault on the world over not having their basic needs met, and over the cold indifference, the active hostility, the chaotic violence, the underlying utter lack of emotional commitment that they experienced. They are compulsively and exclusively user-abusers who can't do anything else. They are impetuously aggressive, and they do a "bully and brown-nose" approach to life, reacting only to the threat of discovery and the resulting punishment from people of greater destructive power and dangerousness than they.
They are into intensely simplistic thinking and they operate out of a massively extortionistic "Big Stick" mentality. They do a lot of "mind-reading" negative assumptive attributions and antisocial interpretations. They are quite assaultive, almost always on victims who can't fight back. They have no empathy, and they are a total taker who is righteous, full of criminal pride, and reaction-formation inflated. They say in effect, "If you don't give me what I want, I'll do something awful and it's all your own damned fault!".
They are constantly on the lookout for opportunities for a "quick killing", and they continuously scam-scheme to bolster their exaggerated pride or their need for security. They strongly prefer to get goodies and to "get over" people by outwitting someone or some system — the "sting syndrome". They don't look past the presumed payoff or the immediate situation, and they therefore are very faulty planners.
Their primary motives are power and revenge, with a secondary prestige-addiction based on their exaggerated pride. The result is that they are frequently self-defeating in their "sleazy pieces" — "go for the goodie" hostile acting out behavioral style. They constantly trod roughshod over people's space, rights, person and property, and they run afoul of the law repeatedly. Their reaction is almost invariably that they are being persecuted, framed and victimized by a system which is systematically designed to zero in on them personally to make their life miserable. They then go into a "cops and robbers" game and a "legalistic loophole-leaping" — "corner in the courtroom" attempt to con their way out of the consequences of their lifestyle.
HOW CAN THEY BE HELPED?
Ideally, "lone marauders" need internal direction training, including cognition, body awareness, and "play therapy" type emotional education. They need simplified stimulation and emotional maturation-inducing regressive therapy so they can go back to the beginning and redesign the whole story. You usually have to take them back to the intra-uterine experience so as to give them a new choice, framed in their lingo, like, "So why did you choose to have all these assholes as your teachers?". They need empathy and caring, along with experience receiving such inputs to switch their referential system. They need role modeling on dealing with father-figures to learn how to live life as an effective male. They also need relationship-capacity building and physical, social and occupational skill training.
Unfortunately, intervention with such individuals is extremely problematic, because they interpret everything from their cold, hostile, paranoid and calculating worldview. Caring and nurturance are dealt with as opportunities to con, exploit and coerce. Or they react to it as if it were a devilishly fiendish and clever con that deserves the most extreme control and severe retaliation, even to the point of potential homicide.
Meanwhile, confrontation and consequences are reacted to as unreasonable attacks from a mysteriously malevolent world. Requirements and restrictions are responded to as discriminatory plots and plans to bring about their ultimate demise. They feel they must have complete freedom and control at all costs because their very life depends on it. Everything is twisted to fit this point of view.
Because of all this, they require a massive caring confrontation approach in a locked setting designed to break down their delusional thinking in a loving but iron-willed and steel-walled environment. In this context, purposeful randomness of interaction designed to mirror their own strategies is required. They need a "Big Stick" to scare them straight, so to speak.
The trouble is that very few people can work in such a manner without being an "other end of the rubber hose" kindred spirit or becoming one as a function of the massive abrasiveness and continual paranoia that one has to maintain when working with them. And that, of course, totally validates and perpetuates the "lone marauder's" system.
For this reason, at present about the only thing that has any impact with them is the "Big Stick" which is sufficiently unpredictable and uncontrollable in its presence and sources of information about them and their activities to infuse the "fear of the Devil" in them. Consequently, these individuals usually end up as "revolving doors" in the criminal justice system, alternating "lone marauder" stints on the outside with "caged con" periods on the inside. Perhaps some day soon we will find better ways of coping with this pattern, but for now that is the dismal prospect for them.
WHAT IS THEIR PURPOSE?
This pattern is characteristic for younger souls who have to go through such experiences to expand their consciousness to the point where such primitive experiences are no longer necessary to teach them how to live in cosmic congruence in the space-time dimension. As a result, this learning is their purpose. That and providing challenging negative experiences and influences for the rest of us to learn from.
However, there is a certain proportion of individuals who have had such a history who have more developed souls, and who have a different purpose for putting themselves through such an experience. These are usually individuals whose cosmic motivation is to teach "from the voice of experience" to those who need such teaching. They therefore become a "takes one to know (and teach) one" vigilant scam- and scum-spotter to help society protect itself, and to teach those among the group they "spot" who are able to learn from them.
For more information on this script, see "Lone Marauder II", "Whaddawegot here?" and "Goodbye, Mr. Goodbar" by the author.
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