Have ever known someone who somehow always ended up on the shitty end of the stick, no matter what? If so, you have known a "Peck's Bad Boy/Girl" ("PBB/G"). They live a misery-seeking life-style of slowly self-destructive dissipation and pseudo-joy ride self-distraction on the way down the shit-chute to oblivion. They spin their wheels with self-deluding and living-in-the-instant activities, events, and pseudo-emotions to avoid like the plague any responsibility or reality. They are totally denial-dominated and unreal in all they do. It is also the basis of the addictive and alcoholic systems.
They are a self-negating dependent child who is intimacy- and involvement-deflecting. They operate out of a "Rollaid-relief" pattern in which their primary objective is to drown out the pain, moment to moment. Pain, emptiness, loneliness, anger and fear are the foundations of their existence, yet they avoid them with everything they've got. So they live a life of illusion as they systematically decimate themselves until they either hit bottom or death out. Remember Elvis and Marilyn and Judy (Garland)?
HOW DID THEY GET THIS WAY?
The fundamental foundation creating a "Peck's Back Boy/Girl" is the experience of finding that their needs don't really matter, in the sense that there is little consideration of what they really should be experiencing from the family system. The net effect is that the individual comes to the conclusion that they don't DESERVE to have their needs taken into consideration. That, in turn, sets off the other two components of the lifescript.
The first of these is that they draw the emotional deduction that there must be something wrong, bad or evil about them to cause the family to disregard their needs in this manner. This is one basis of the "Bad" component of the title of the pattern. The other basis is that their "bad" self-image response is usually to seek ways to meet their needs on their own while at the same time making sure that they are working towards "atonement" for the "badness" by seeing to it that they have enough negative ("punitive") experiences to "balance the cosmic budget", so to speak. So they end up going after their negative life sustenance resources while simultaneously making sure they are hurting themselves in the process. So they feel "bad" about themselves and they also make themselves feel bad by the way they behave.
There is a large number of ways this can happen. The most common, of course, is the ubiquitous "dysfunctional family". In this situation, there is an addictive person who is narcissistic, righteous, charming and blaming, and who dominates the family system with their addiction and its ecological effects. Then there are several other roles in the family such as the enabler (who tries to minister to and make up for the damages of the addict [the "Red Riding Hood"]), the hero (who tries to make everything all better [the "Kestone Kid"]), the scape-goat (who acts out, looks outside the family for support, and is headed towards becoming an addict [the "Peck's Bad Boy/Girl"]), the lost child (who is excluded from the system and who has to self-sustain [the "Desparado"]) and the mascot (who is the clown and distractor [the "Perenial Child"]). All of the family members engage in massive denial, distortion, defensiveness and disabled functioning.
Another pathway is for the mother to be possessively over-protective and over-involved with the individual so that they make life better than anyone else ever could. They subtly encourage the individual to engage in self-defeating and potentially self-destructive behaviors, at which points she is really there to the max to "clean up for them" and to "look after them". The result then becomes an individual who is a "mama's child" looking for a bottle-supplier to rely upon. The individual's inner being then questions the source of this pattern and outcome, and they come to the conclusion that they must be "bad" to make such a wonderful mother so miserable with all their screw-ups.
A somewhat related route is when the individual reaches toddler-hood and starts to separate from the mother, and she goes into a separation-panic that drives her to put the individual on a program of independence-undermining. She does so by withdrawing her love-line when the individual expresses their personal power or starts to commence their competence-development, while if the individual is self-defeatingly passive and incompetent, she is really there with loads of love. Then she adds to the program by withdrawing if the individual is real about anything, and by being particularly involved when they get into trouble. The result is insufficiency of self-support systems and a pronounced tendency to self-defeatingness and accident-proneness, and an individual who is internally convinced that they are "bad".
A related pattern is where the message the child gets is in effect, "Stay as sick as you are!". Such individuals are programmed to engage in self-destructive and illness-generating functioning, and they simultaneously receive the message that if they self-commit in any way, "Pandora's Box" will unleash the "Furies of Hell" and the "Sword of Damacles" will descend into their head to bring an agonizing anihilation. They turn to a "pseudo-joy ride" to "assuage" and "entertain" themselves while simultaneously choosing their OWN poisons so they can calibrate their own misery. They get into a kind of prideful self-vindication along the lines of, "I'll show who's really in control in the end!".
Another way is to continuously catastrophize with the child so that the individual comes to the conclusion that they must be the cause of World War II and the beginnings of World War III. They come to deeply distrust and to have a deep disgust reaction to their own intentions, expectations and expressions, and they start punishment-seeking as a way to atone for all they are and have wrought.
One of the more common parenting patterns is where the parents harbor intense resentment towards the individual for whatever reasons, but they felt guilty about it. So they needed an excuse to withold from and/or punishment them, so they programmed them to be "bad" (to give them justifications for their inherent inclinations). The net effect of this is that the individual finds that the only way to get "strokes" is to be "bad", so they end up trading their self-commitment for their lifeline.
Another common manner in which this can happen is when there is "convenience parenting" and "benign neglect" and "resentful non-parenting". They don't want the responsibilities and restrictions involved in having a child or this child, and they convey that clearly to the individual in their manner of parenting. The individual then gets the "bad" message and they also find that if they act on that by acting out and self-defeating they can get at least some sort of attention.
Still another version is where the individual is subjected to alternating exploitation and rejection/neglect. The result is the individual becomes convinced that they don't deserve joy and love, and they end up looking for validation in all the wrong places and faces (that is, people who make them feel the same way by treating them functionally in the same manner), and they conclude that they deserve nothing but the very worst.
Another process is where the parents are untrustworthy and rejecting, and the individual turns to peers and self-solace as their means of self-sustenance. They then become totally dependent upon peer figures for their emotional support and reason d'etre. They end up with an underlying feeling of not deserving to live, and they are incapable of intimacy.
A variation theme is the "most rejecting parent" scenerio. Here one parent is intensely rejecting of the individual, while the other is either indifferent, unavailable or too weak to restrain the rejection and punishment behavior of the rejecting parent. In this situation, the child will focus virtually all of their resources on trying to win over the rejecting parent, and they end up buying into the rejecting parent's preferences -- which is that they hurt themselves and that they accept the "bad" image.
A somewhat similar scenerio is where instead of the parent's being rejecting, they are unable to be available, while the other parent is incapable of intimacy and commitment-expression towards the child. Seeing that the one parent is not able to meet their needs, they put all their eggs in the basket of the witholding parent -- and end up feeling "bad" and in need of self-destructive behavior to get any support at all.
In all these cases and others that have the same outcome, parental fixation is brought about by the parents' in effect squashing the essence expression of the individual, teaching them that they are "bad" and then giving them the experience that the parents love them despite their "badness" -- and that no one else could, would or should. It also produces an addiction to self-punishment and self-destruct, because survival depended on it and they believe they have to atone. The severity of the self-destructiveness is contingent upon how selectively witholding for severity of self-harm the parents were.
There is also a "vast wasteland" paucity of loveline supplies for the individual, and the "PBB/G" ends up addicted to depression as a result. Relief was the only form of reinforcement they got, and it also was the only form of life support. They end up not knowing any other way to be. Consequently, all positive experiences come in the context of depression and pain in the form of learned helplessness. So joy, depression and helplessness become fused into one experience for them.
And of course, they are convinced that they are "bad" and deserve nothing else. They buy the message that they are evil and that they therefore don't deserve positive experiences. They end up believing that they have to coerce negative strokes like revenge experiences and validation of nihilistic beliefs as their only lifeline. They thus end up in a slow self-destruct lifestyle which they will defend to the death.
WHERE ARE THEY COMING FROM?
Their "bottom line" conviction is that they deserve nothing but the very worst. They therefore engage in a lifestyle involving things like crisis- and catastrophe-courting self-set ups, chaos- and confusion-creating, accident-proneness and even termination-seeking, out of the belief that they have to experience such things to "atone" for their "badness". To them, the absence of pain indicates that they don't exist and/or that they have been totally abandoned. Their existence and identity is based on pain.
A very common dynamic is the "parent-rescue" pattern in which they seek to try to "earn" acceptance and to deflect abandonment by attempting to "make it all better" for the most rejecting parent. The result is doomed to failure wall-smashing patterns in which they "mother-rescue" or "father-rescue" with the "original cast" and with a "cast of thousands" of "stand-ins" who make them feel the same way the parent did over and over and over again.
They are in effect totally negatively focussed and fixated, due to their experience that that was the only way to avoid shrivelling up and dying, because of utter lack of involvement from the family. They have a nasty habit of "blowing it all away" when true success and/or intimacy comes their way. They are too convinced of their "badness" and too dependent on the family system lifestyle to tolerate anything positive.
They also have the conviction that to be truly themselves is to invite anihilation and abandonment, in other words to destroy themselves. They allow themselves no internal creativity or capacity to guide themselves. It all has to be externally determined. Their feeling is, "I'm no good!". Self-committed behavior is utterly terrifying to them, and they will do things like have a migraine headache when they do anything self-committed, which is a "Mother Nature doesn't LIKE that!" reaction they learned at their mother's knee. Their basic belief is that they are completely worthless and that they should do the world a favor and hurt themselves.
They feel that they have to destroy themselves to stroke themselves -- and they sabotage themselves for self-pity. They have a pronounced proclivity to the "Sysiphus" pattern of "rolling a boulder up the mountain, only to slip and have it roll all the way down over and over". They are prone to constantly punish and harrass themselves over self-commitment desires and at the same time over their consistant self-defeating patterns. They can do no right, in their eyes.
They have a way of setting themselves up to validate the notion that "Everybody hates me!". They are self-scapegoating to a high degree, and they seek situations where they are "disciplined" and "bad rapped" over and over. They feel alienated, alien and alone, persecuted and picked on. This often leads to their deriving a good deal of sad satisfaction from righteous self-justification and self-pity. They have a "The world is out to hurt me!" orientation, and everything positive is viewed with alarm, suspicion or disgust.
Yet at the same time, denial and awareness-avoidance is rampant in their functioning. They are trying desparately to not experience the deep despair, abandonment-depression and overwhelming self-destructiveness that lies at the base of their pattern. They are firmly externalizing, and nothing is considered to be self-determined. Accountability is avoided absolutely and fanatically out of a desparate fear of seeing their pattern. All of this is designed as a suicide-avoidant strategy due to the "death script" implications and sometimes even systematic suicide injuctions involved in their pattern-formation. The more severe versions, particularly the addictive personalities, are compulsively future-focussed. They ignore the pain of the present, and they keep on pursuing the "promised land" and denying the truth of their experience and the meaning of what is happening in their life. They avoid dealing with the here and now like the plague.
The most severe versions constantly set up no-win situations in which they "prove" that "life sucks" and that they and everyone else are awful. This pattern comes from families in which things were so pathological that they had to resort to such tactics to get any attention whatsoever. They select one or more all-consuming and to varying degrees and speeds self-destructive passions, and they commence the slow slide down the shit-chute to oblivion. Some of the options are alcohal, drugs, gambling, carracing, hang-gliding, "loser" artistic endeavers and "entremanure"--"scheme in the sky" trips.
They select their poison(s) and they procede to build their life around it. They do all this as a means of atonement and to lap up the self-destructive strokes that come from the forced attention and coerced care involved. Or they severely harm themselves and put themselves in the totally passive-receptive care-receiving mode to "prove" to themselves that they have to be at death's door to get any support and/or to "get back" at their rejecting/neglecting parents. Or they take it to the ultimate extreme and actually self-destruct.
In all cases, the "PBB/G" is in a constant pattern of self-enmiseration in all they do. Their life is one long hassle and self-defeating pattern, and they are firmly convinced at the conscious level that the universe stacked against them, while at the subconscious level they are totally committed to the notion that it is all their "just deserts". "It hurts so good!" is their motto.
HOW DO THEY FUNCTION?
The "PBB/G" effectively systematically hurts themselves in one way or another as a resultant of their having had to do so for life-sustaining strokes as a child, with its associated impacts on their motivational and self-evaluational systems. For instance, many small businesses are "scheme in the sky" trying to "strike it rich" without work or responsibility while simultaneously defying the established ways of doing things in a "crash and burn artist" pattern. Their life pattern can sometimes even be divided into a "prologue", where the story gets started and they seem to set out on a self-committed life course, a "climax", where they go into the often years-long struggle with their self-destructive tendencies, and the "catastrophe", where the tragic outcome comes down.
Yet they vehemently deny this is happening or they simply don't see what they are doing and what is coming. Ironically, this pattern frequently has the effect of keeping them going in their pattern for a very long time with resillience and resurgence capabilities -- the "9 lives effect". They use a lot of discredit, discount, deflect and distort tactics, along with such disguises as, "Sometimes, I . . ." as an accountability/responsibility-avoidant framing of things.
They re-interpret everything to fit their on-going delusions, distortions, projections and orientations. They operate out of unilateral egocentric assumptions and they are amazed and accusatory when others don't fit in to their pictures of things. They do a lot of seeing what is going on inside themselves as coming from outside and attacking it righteously in a "shadow-boxing" manner. They refuse responsibility for their ecological impacts in a "lily white" self-experience much of the time.
Bottom line, of course, they are unconsciously seething with self-blame projected out, so that they often take a blame-projected "critical parent" stance. They have such poor self-esteem that they are compulsively blame-avoidant, and they can't hear reality without defending and distorting. They are super-self-avoidant as a self-preservation strategy for handling their "Bruce at the butt" pursuing shark of depression. If you persist and insist on reality inputs with them, they get super-hostile because they are terrified of coming in contact with their death-dealing depression underneath.
They are massively feeling-avoidant and externalizing to deflect responsiblity and awareness of their situation. They have to be continuously busy to keep their feelings at bay. They often keep frenetically over-extended and over-committed to never have any alone or down time to encounter their inner and outer realities. Almost all their self-entertaining is super-social and significance-squashing in a "hail fellow, well met table-hopping" manner. They use sports, anger-releasing physical activity and other ways of self-distraction so as not to feel what is really going on for them. They also use these activities as ways to hurt themselves as well. They tend to go for physical, manipulative or impersonal occupations, and there is a hard-edged, rigid and at times even ruthless studied oblivion pattern present.
Typically, any efforts to assist, change or stop them are thwarted in such a manner as to either "blow the cover" on a psuedo-rescuer (and hidden persector) or to reduce a genuine rescuer (who is really seeking to be rescued) to tears of frustration (which the "PBB/G" is likely to interpret as "making a fool of them"). All of this is guilt-ducking and get-back at their parents. Any advice as to how to make things better is usually used as information on what NOT to do. They put down and seek to undermine people who are successful and self-committed, and they can't stand success or joy.
The more subtle versions engage in sly and subconscious skewers of themselves and others in a devastating manner. They will put out an unconscious "all-points-bulletin" at the emotional body level to the effect of, "Fuck me over!", and you therefore can't get through to them until they have hit bottom. They then take you down the "id-skid tube" with them by pulling you into their maelstrom via forcing you to either support their self-destruction or to continuously confront -- which unleashes all the gamey bullshit they use to sustain their pattern.
Some "PBB/G's" get into compulsive addiction- avoidance in reaction to the felt rejection by "God" (their parents). They profoundly fear getting caught up in substitutes and they prefer deprivation of pleasure to the engulfment and attachment while they "wait for Godot". They will often seek altered states of consciousness that are mistaken for spiritual contacts. They are "desparately seeking Susan", and they build their whole life around their ways of "contacting God".
Others are intensely influence-deflecting and self-determining with distractions operations, and they won't let anyone take them anywhere they don't want to go. Such individuals get into a double-bind around power. They love the control, impact and influence their attention-coercing gives the, but they hate the responsibility and restrictions that go with power. So they alternate ambivalently between super-self-determination and coercive dependency limit-seeking. And some of them love to enrage people because it makes them feel they won the power-struggle, and it means people come at them in the only way the know and therefore trust. It's a safe, contacting and vicariously releasing way to operate.
Still others are crisis-creators of the first magnitude. This process generates adrenalin, prevents real feelings and inner awareness, and lessens alienation by pseudo-pulling together and false camaraderie-activation in "combat companion" experiences. The illusion of caring, connection and commitment is very addictive to them. The truth is that these crises and their chronic confusion are distraction operations and pseudo-transcendence exhilaration-generating processes. They direct attention away from their pain and it substitutes for real feelings via panic-inducing lose-lose thinking. It also is used to excuse and justify erratic and immoral actions on their part. It enforces side-taking, dichotomizing, righteousness, option-closing and planning-prevention, while giving the experience of power-centralizing, control-permeating and illusory solution-seeking.
They act impetuously and impulsively on their feelings, and they are fact-avoiders and evidence-ignoring. Their feelings are transient and they "floating flotsom" their way down the tube. "I felt like it was right", "I don't like being controlled", "I'm hearing that you're saying I won't make it, but I feel I can make it" are the sort of things they say from this space. No pragmatics, self-responsibility or reality are considered in this pattern.
In many cases, they also get into an exhilaration-freak pattern in which they try to feel alive after having had to shut down totally in their hellish home. They seek intensity, richness, explosiveness and ecstatic states in a pain-addicted manner. They also use it to prevent coming in contact with their isolation-pain and they use it in a "threatening" intimacy-avoidant pattern. They hate "boredom", which for them is not knowing what to do with themselves and hating themselves as a result in a restless dissatisfaction and self-disgust reaction. So they take things to the limit and beyond, and they get theatric for attention.
They often have internal dialogues that entice them into self-destructive activities. Their rationales will involve considerations like once your reputation is shot or the ultimate valued thing is lost, nothing else matters and anything goes. They are massively reality-avoidant as they do their pseudo-hedonistic "eat, drink and be "merry", for tomorrow I may be able to die!" thing. They are totally self-immersed and self-indulgent as they live out their script to its tragic end.
In addition, sometimes maniacal laughter while engaging in horrendous self-termination-seeking activities will accompany their behavior as they reinforce themselves for carrying out their rejecting parents' fondest wishes. They often get a large charge out of the acting out and self-destruct process. These super self-destructive self-haters often do a "provoked homicide" number in which they pick a powerful person they feel can anihilate them, and they then systematically termation-seek with them.
There are many variations on the theme, of course. For instance, some individuals are extremely prone to humiliation-induction, which reflects an underlying addiction to perfection that is an attempt to "compensate" for all their "badness" with massive "goodness". Then there is the "flirt-aholic" who can't stop treating every encounter with the other gender as a challenge to "win Mom/Dad" over". The "crazy" "PBB/G" comes about when the only safe and "acceptable" payoffs came when they were ungrounded, making them unable to understand a lot, in a "confusion-city" situation. And then there is compulsive stealing based on severe rejection and a resulting desparation for love substitutes.
Some of the more severe"PBB/G's" often live by their wits and off the fat of the land. They string you along with tokenism until you are over the edge, wiped out or burned out. Such individuals are totally dependent and they give nothing while they get themselves taken care of. They are incapable of self-commitment, responsibility or productivity/contribution, and it is almost impossible to change them. They are stroke-coercing, support-sucking and "play along with me" trippers of the first magnitude. They often get into the process of inertia, immobilization and inactivity of the amotivational syndrome. Nothing gets done for themselves, and it's just "vegetable city" with them.
And then of course, there is the addictive pattern, which is enormously manipulative, coercive, energy-wasting, controlling and "zero-sum competitive ("Joe's getting 5 gallons of the 25 gallons means I lose 5 gallons! Get him outta here!"). It is also external validation- and interpretation-generating and "thing-ifying" of everything. They operate in a "win-lose", destroy the other guy and avoid commitment, completion, competence, comprehension, compassion and contribution manner. It is full of what the 12-step people call "stinkin' thinkin'", which is over-logical, hyper-rational, obsessive, paranoid and unreal. It believes that there is a rational, discernable solution to chaotic confusion and deteriorative disintegration.
They have the "Deity-delusion" -- the belief that they are God and that they are therefore omniscient, omnipresent and omnipotent. They try to be God via perfectionism and pervasive hands-on control of everything. They try to accomplish the impossible and to convince themselves that it's doable or that they have already done it.
They also have the "quick fix" and "relief-seeking" psychology in which they believe they have "taken care of it" for once and for all. They'll jump on anything that promises such a "solution" -- to the exclusion of all else, with no morals about it.
Addictive communication is indirect, conflict-avoidant, gossipy, self-justifying, solution-deflecting, victimizing, complaining, powerlessness-emphasizing, non-accountable, denying, forgetting, distorting, unclear, incomplete, obfiscating, confusion-inducing, power-tripping, titilating, full of "secrets" that are sick and "for your own good", divisive, dishonest, selectively non-remembering, over-abstract and vague, ungrounded and immediacy-bound. In other words, you don't know what in the world is going on with them and around them.
Addictive functioning is saturated with proliferating rules and structures. Good judgement is impossible, so procedures and restrictions abound. It is protection against assumed unreliability in others and in the world (which is actually self-caused). Control is the over-weaning motivation and manifestation with them. Image-concern and impression-mismanaging constantly dominate their functioning. They compulsively plan but implement very little or nothing.
They are enormously form-fixated, and cosmetics, procedures, facades, looking good, covering up, knowing-inhibition, substance- and significance-avoidance, reality-disguising, form-fix hoping, symptom-chasing, control-illusioning and issue-burying prevent all mission and meaning. Addictive planning is not descriptive of what needs to happen. Its predictive, prescriptive and restrictive. It prevents information-and reality-flow, and it selects who and what it will see and listen to. It pretends and prevents change and preserves the system instead. Power is centralized through partial information that misinforms, dependency-coerces, uncertainty-induces and hyper-sensitivity- and infighting-promotes.
In the addictive system, if you can find anything at all wrong with a person, system, idea or situation, you can totally dismiss them forthwith. Or if you can find anything right about something wrong, the whole thing is OK. Complete "index thinking" (where one indicator is all they use) and black/white thinking, feeling and behaving permeate their functioning. If you are not 100% for something, you're 100% against it. They are morally bankrupt and meaning-empty. They are numb zombies who can't say no to destructive processes. They refuse to change their paradigm and to make the leap of faith. Mutual interaction and synergistic manifestation are systematically denied and prevented.
Addicts will do anything for their life-, feeling-, reality-, vulnerability-, risk-, responsibility- and accountability-avoidant "fix". They will also do anything to avoid losing the addiction. The result is moral degeneration and depravity, with no ehtical integrity, humane compassion or productive commitment. Addictive people and systems are unable to conceive of life without the addition, and they are dominated by it in a massively self-centered, dishonest and delusionally illusional sense of having control. They are isolated from all else, and they live a chaotic, addiction-obsessed, completely ecology-controlling and -decimating manner. They are mind-fucking, soul-searing and self-deluding to the max. And of course, they are systematically massively self-destructive in a highly successful way.
HOW CAN THEY BE HELPED?
The basic process involved in healing a "PBB/G" is helping them become a person. It involves learning to take full responsibility for themselves and for their environmental impact while facing reality squarely. They have to come off the dependent child, parent-leaning and "rescue triangle cop-outs" (rotating around "victim,", "persecutor" and "rescuer" positions). They have never had the experiences necessary to bring this about, having had to engage in their "Godzilla-pleasing" self-destructive program all these years.
The primary process in this undertaking is in effect "reparenting". They need unconditional positive regard to break up their "self-destruct for love" process. They need to be given the right to exist and to have the love that they never got so as to heal the "Bruce at the butt" abandonment-depression. Only when their "badness" thing is dealt with can they accept success and intimacy. A key component in this process is to point out the "crippled parents'" who couldn't love and how they induced the "badness" feeling. They have to have a context within a larger-than-self system so they can see where it all came from. You also have to help them truly identify their resillience in the face of disaster and their fundamental love-ability. Finally, they need a true connection to the "Home Office" to replace the ersatz one they have been hobbling along with.
With regard to their denial process, it is best handled by indirect induction interventions such as metaphors and stories, as well as by shared experiences with others who have struggled with the same pattern. This bypasses the stress of facing reality too fast so you don't have to deal with the blame-frame blasts and reality-over-whelm freak-outs. They need the experience that reality is handle-able. This requires a great deal of support along the way.
Intervention with addicts requires a much more intensive and extensive process. First of all, they have to lose their "ace in the hole" addiction before they'll enter the change process. They have to go all the way to he bottom to go for something like a treatment program and a 12-step system. It also requires that their original target of pursuit -- God -- has to be available to them for real along the way or as a likely outcome. Thirdly, it requires heavy "drill instructor" discipline-enforcement to force self-commitment and self-respect. This may require a live-in program at the beginning as a result.
Intervention here involves refusing to play into any of the roles they seek to con or coerce you into, as well as forcing them to take responsibility for their life and future. Often the thing that works best is to place them in a group of individuals with the same poison-addiction and fencing them in to confining their inputs to each other to reality-feedback, self-hate invalidations, self-commitment-encouragement, support, and soul-searching. The ultimate target is self-love-induction based on life experiences in the absence of their "poison" and its associated "games" and pseudo-strokes.
WHAT IS THEIR PURPOSE?
They have been all around the track and all the way to the bottom. They therefore are remarkably experienced for comprehending the human condition and where others are at in their process. The result is that when they have recovered, they are a chastened and reborn game-busting intervener who truly understands what is going on and what is needed. They become in effect remarkably responsive and responsible "cosmic social workers" who assist others in finding the true path to the Truth.
For further information on this pattern, see "Addictions and CoDependency", "Introduction to 'Addictions & Cravings'", and "ADDICTIONS & CRAVINGS" by the author.
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