Meet "Quasimoto" -- the "Hunchback of Notre Dame", the "yuk-artist" who is a past master at eliciting an "E-e-e-i-uck!!!" reaction wherever they go. They are the original "funny looking kid" and "weirdo" who has an absolute knack for revolting everyone they encounter. And to make matters worse, they seem to be programmed to do the "Humpty Dumpty" thing of deflecting all efforts by all the King's horses and all the King's men to put them back together again.
The peculiar and paradoxical thing about them, though, is that underneath all the "yuk stuff" is a huge heart, a committed contributor and/or a wise wizard. They are profoundly caring, concerned and contributory, but in a manner that is guaranteed to not be noticed or received due to all their surface manifestation of egregious eccentricity.
HOW DID THEY GET THIS WAY?
This is a "Keystone Kid" ( keystone-kid-personality.htm) in disguise, by which is meant that they in effect served as the "family hoist" (the silver thing that holds the car up) to such a fundamentally needed degree that the family unconsciously built in a "fail-safe" process whereby they guaranteed that the individual would never grow away, by making them so totally unacceptable to the outside world that no one would ever allow them to be around.
The "yuk-artist" was trained at the sixteen times a second interaction level to develop a disguise as a monster who is dismaying, discombobulating, disgusting and distrust-inducing. They become absolutely masterful at rejection-courting with psuedo-obnoxiousness and systematic success-avoidance as they put their worst foot forward, always. The net effect is that they are continuously socially and often pragmatically unsuccessful with their self-fulfilling prophesy "coffin-nail" environmental impact system.
Unfortunately for all involved, the family usually reacts to their own creation with just as much rejection as anyone else does. To make matters worse, it also usually doesn't result in the individual's staying around the old homestead either -- often because the family throws them out, in a "Frankenstein" reaction ("My God, what have we created!?"), followed by a "Pontius Pilate" response ("You take them -- we can't handle them!"). Furthermore, another unconscious component to the whole program is that they are supposed to self-destruct after the parents are through with them -- hence the "Quasimoto" outcome tendency (which is to get torn apart by an angry mob). So they end up their own worst enemy -- and all for naught.
WHERE ARE THEY COMING FROM?
The "yuk-artist" is, as might be expected, super-self-paranoid, and their primary experience is one of fear and guilt. They are fearful out of massive competence-anxiety, and also out of "retribution-paranoia" "yum-out" reaction to positive things happening to them. They don't really trust anything or anyone -- least of all themselves. And at the same time, they are profoundly guilty for all their "failures" and for their "gross-out artist" facade behaviors. They are full of self-loathing and they do things like get overweight to feed their self-hatred script. They feel like they are "demonically possessed" at times when they really let fly with whopper revulsion-elicitation behaviors. And to cap it all off, they are usually quite resistant to intervention because they feel that they deserve the very worst.
Yet at the same time, they are profoundly concerned with the welfare of everyone around them, and they feel personally responsible and accountable for making things all better. They have a highly developed compassion and commitment, and they care deeply about everyone they know and know of. Yet because of the family's simultaneous intense reliance upon them and punishment of them for not doing it well enough, they are deeply self-distrusting and self-disgusted about how they are failing in their responsibilities.
Meanwhile, to keep on going, they often turn to a super-self-sustaining and fatalistic convenience-bound lifestyle out of an, "It's all I've got going for me" orientation, along with a profound feeling that they are in effect "waiting for rigor mortis" in an "All's lost anyway" feeling. They feel very deeply that success is not for them and that efforts to improve their situation are gross violations of the moral order. They settle for things like sloppiness and ignoring appearances as their self-sustaining support system based on minimal requirements of them. And they get into "mad scientist" things like stamp collecting, electronics and computers as a substitute self-sustenance and self-reassurance for all the incompetence and rejection they experience. They are, needless to say, thoroughly alone and alien.
HOW DO THEY FUNCTION?
"Yuk-artists" live up to their name, and they are experientially unpleasant to have around a lot of the time. They do indeed put their worst foot forward all the time, and they elicit a great deal of validation of how awful they are, first from their family and then from the world at large. Unlike the "claim to fame", they don't "bag peaks", they "collect sewers". They are also professional self-scapegoats and expulsion-elicitors.
When someone relevant tries to relate to them positively, it tends to bring out the very worst in them. And when a "fatal attraction" nemesis figure approaches them, they go into a "yuk-amok" reaction, as they play out in spades the original programming in reaction to the re-appearance of a stand-in for the original cast.
They also go into "mega-yuk" when faced with rejection, as it activates all their self-hatred and heavily injunctioned functioning cues. It also confirms their worst expectations, and they go into a frenzy of self-destruct, followed by an exacerbation of their self-sustain stuff.
There is another aspect of their rejection-eliciting patterns, however. And that is that there are times when its appearance is not a part of the original scripted pattern. For instance, one of the functions of the "Quasimoto" behavior was to be able to drive away the smothering/hovering mother for much-needed space, and they sometimes utilize it the same way now. And then there are times when they appear defensive with what seems to be over-justification of their ideas or perceptions, but it's just hard for them to understand that what's obvious to them because of their enforced sidelines watching life history is not readily apparent to others.
Then there is also the other side of the coin of their functioning. For one thing, they are usually not yukky with their intimates most of the time. It is only a public blow-away pattern, for the most part. And then there is the matter of their profound service and support process done in a super-unsung hero(ine) manner. They make every move count due to their double motivation of commitment and guilt-atonement. They are a need-spotter par excellence, and they are super-attuned to areas and phenomena that others are super-afraid of. Hence they point out the "Emperor's New Clothes" and other things that others seek not to see.
But in general, all that people usually see and react to in the "yuk-artist" is their rejection-courting facade and lifestyle, and they react vehemently -- to the "yuk-artist's" great dismay.
HOW CAN THEY BE HELPED?
Intervention for the "yuk-artist" involves "yuk-busting" -- caring confrontation and loving feedback, as well as insight-induction and realistic recognition of their great contributions and loving commitment, in the context of relationship therapy. They need a particularly large dose of guilt-alleviation due to the effects of their systematic obnoxiousness and its ecological impact.
They need systematic desensitization around their guilt and fear with regard to success experiences. It has to be a small-step success ladder training program to prevent their blowing the whole process away in a frenzy of self-hatred or competence-anxious panic.
In addition, you have to do a careful study of how they alienate, determine which parent was primarily responsible for inducing and enforcing it, and then pointing out that they're doing it to "please Godzilla" again. Then ask them what they are seeking to accomplish in the way of positive contribution and achievement with this particular piece of "yuk".
Interestingly, as the rewards in life from other spheres increase as a function of the success of the intervention program, they tend to become more conventional in their dress and behavior, even in those areas where there has been no focussed work. This is because once they are freed from their "behavioral prison sentence", they can then come forward with their true identity and destiny.
WHAT IS THEIR PURPOSE?
Because of their many years as an observer of the human condition and process, the ex-"yuk-artist" is deeply perceptive. They also needed such sensitivity to be able to calibrate exactly how much "yuk" to put out to avoid causing harm and to know what buttons not to push. As a result, they are excellent interpreters of what is going down anywhere they look.
They are also long ago inured to negative reactions from others, and so they have the ability to risk rejection to tell it like it is. This makes them a superb "news analyst", in terms of knowing and saying what is really going on and what the implications and ramifications of it all are. They are kind of "cosmic clarifiers", in other words.
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